I was thinking about what is the one word that would describe me most accurately, if I could only choose one word. What would that word be? Would it be aggressive, savage, or how about erudite, intelligent, or innovative? Maybe intense (I’ve been called intense quite a bit)? While I think all those words are relevant, there really is only one word that captures my personality and general “vibe”: serious. Everything about me can be understood through that single word:
Seriousness (noun; adjective: serious) is an attitude of gravity, solemnity,
persistence, and earnestness toward something considered to be of importance.
This is easily the most important aspect of my personality. It’s the “make or break” feature that I believe dominates who I can relate to (i.e. have any type of relationship be it platonic or romantic, personal or professional).
Here is what I originally had in my about me section from my OkCupid dating profile:
So you could say that I am very serious, and that's still probably an
understatement. I don't have time to "f*ck around" ... I mean literally I don't
hookup or sleep around. It's not EASY to get my time let alone my "personal
space" ... I'm always working on the problems that I need to work on (and as
anyone who is remotely responsible knows there are always PLENTY of problems
that need attention). You could describe me as "erudite" or "academic" in my
style, but savage and dominant in my personality. Like a warrior poet, or if a
primal instinctual beast was also a scholar and extremely analytical. I'm only
truly interested in solving problems, and being dominant. If I'm not
self-reflecting on my life and where I've been, I'm thinking about where I'm
going and how to get there. I don't relate at all to people who are not
responsible or not SERIOUS with their time. So if you have the time to just talk
to random people EVERYDAY, like some revolving door of perpetual online
socializing/hooking up, or you're constantly engaging in social media, or
ANYTHING similar to that ... we're not on the same page. You really need to be
serious about your time, and serious about your life to match with me. If you
have a million friends, we're not going to match.
I have to laugh when I read what I originally wrote, not because it’s asinine or ridiculous, but rather because it’s so accurate. But I think I can distill or concentrate the essence of what I was trying to communicate to a single sentence:
be serious about your life.
What I find with most people, is that simply they aren’t very responsible for their life. This leads them to being very not serious about the choices they make, and that fundamentally does not match with me.
I could have talked about how I’m tall, dark, and handsome, with a dominant, aggressive, and masculine personality, but that is nowhere near as relevant or accurate as the word serious. Do I spend a lot of time solving problems? Yes. Am I intelligent? More than above average. What’s my favorite food? Any kind of food. I mean these aspects of my personality are not dominant traits … anyone could have these traits, and still not be like me (i.e. match me). But seriousness is the most dominant trait I possess and that should always be what attracts you to me … otherwise, you’re going to have a bad bad time :)