“Everything in the world is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power.” — Oscar Wilde
Let’s be clear from the start.
You may have many admirable qualities — intelligence, kindness, strength, wit — those will absolutely matter. But the fundamental truth of this dynamic is simple: You are here to be conquered. To submit. To yield your body, your will, and your pleasure to me.
This isn’t just about chemistry or compatibility. It’s about power. Not symbolic power. Not occasional role play. Something real. Visceral. Lived.
The core of every masculine/feminine relationship — no matter how modern, equal, or loving — rests on a sexual truth: one leads, one yields. One dominates, one surrenders. That polarity is the engine of attraction. Remove it, and you extinguish the flame.
Or course I value respect, depth, and emotional connection, and if we connect, there may be laughter, warmth, intimacy — even partnership. But none of that changes your role. Sexually, you are here to surrender. That’s not a flaw or a weakness. It’s the point.
And if you understand that — not just in fantasy, but in lived reality — then we may have something worth building.
Now we will clarify in no uncertain terms what we mean by “surrender” or “submit.” Below is a list of activities and dynamics you must be capable of handling. These are baseline expectations — not negotiable preferences — for engagement.