The Submission Video Essay - Your First Step

Introduction

Before any words are exchanged — before you get the chance to talk to me, connect with me, or explore something deeper — there is one threshold you must cross:

You must first submit.

This is not:

• a dating app.
• entertainment.
• a fantasy.
• an open audition for attention.

This is a vetting process for those who understand that personal connection, creative collaboration, and especially Dominant/submissive dynamics must begin with orientation — with clarity about who is leading and who is yielding.

Why This Video Essay Exists

Up until now, every person who has submitted the dating contact form has been seeking something from me — validation, attention, novelty, a feeling of being chosen.

They are not drawn to submission itself: they are drawn to what they think they can gain without yielding anything real.

They say the words, but their orientation is off.
They want closeness without obedience.
Dialogue without hierarchy.
Intimacy without surrender.

That does not work here:

• You cannot follow my leadership if you are still influenced by others — friends, exes, therapists, or your feed.
• You cannot claim submission while negotiating for something else.
• You cannot yield if you are still positioning.

This video essay exists to expose that mismatch — between what I offer and what you are actually seeking. It is here to surface your motivations, and clarify whether you are willing to submit, or simply trying to extract.

One leads forward.

The other ends here.

What You Must Do

Record a video (minimum 5 minutes) in which you respond honestly and fully to the following questions:

1. What does submission mean to you — emotionally and practically?
   
   
2. Why are you drawn to my content or energy, specifically?
   
   
3. Why do you want to submit to me — not just “someone”?
   
   
4. What do you hope to gain through this relationship (mentally, emotionally, sexually, or otherwise)?
   
   
5. Can someone truly submit while still being influenced by others — family, friends, past partners, social media? Why or why not?
   
   
6. If your boyfriend, partner, or Dominant asked you to remove certain influences from your life — people, platforms, or habits — could you do it? Why or why not?
   
   
7. What parts of yourself — your thinking, your habits, your body — would be the hardest to give up control over?
   
   
8. If you had to choose between being accepted by others or fully devoting yourself to the leadership of your boyfriend, partner, or Dominant — which would you choose, and why?

Things to Keep In Mind

Here are a few points to help guide you when recording your video essay:

• Speak clearly. I am not looking for polish — I am looking for whether you are oriented toward real submission.
  
  
• Be honest. Do not say what you think I want to hear. Say what is true for you.
  
  
• Present yourself. Dress with intention. Take this seriously — it should look and feel like it matters.
  
  
• Be visible. No filters. No disguises. I need to see you — not a persona.
  
  
• Creativity and effort are welcome. Attire, production quality, and presentation can help — but they mean nothing without clarity, conviction, and the right motivation.
  
  
• Submit privately. Upload your video (YouTube unlisted, Dropbox, etc.) and share the link in the appropriate field in the dating contact.

This is your first step — and it should feel like one. Not everyone will complete it and that is the point.

What Happens After

Once I receive your dating contact form submission I will review your information and your video carefully. If I see real alignment — not just interest, but orientation — I will contact you about the next step.

If you cannot complete this, you are not a match with me. If you do complete it — and you tell the truth — you will already have done more than 99% of applicants ever will.

And that may be the beginning.